The question ?

As author Joan Boryseynko says, “The question is not whether we will die but how we will live.”

What will they say about you when your life ends? How do you want to be remembered?

My mom and I discussed this question at length when she turned 60 last year. She told me that at 50, she would have answered, “I want people to say, ‘She was kind.’” Now, at age 60, she says, “I want people to say, ‘She taught me to listen to the Spirit of Truth within me.’” All of my mom’s time is spent in helping others who need comfort and support. She is already living in a way that will yield the answer she desires. I am blessed to have a mother like this.

Take time this week to formulate one or two statements that express what you want people to say about you. (Since I’m asking you to do this exercise, I’ll be vulnerable and share mine. I want people to say, ”She fully loved and accepted people for who they are and where they are in life. She helped individuals, communities and nations to understand their power and to reach their full potential.”)

Write your intentions down. Try to sum it up in a few sentences. Don’t forget to consider the question, “ How does my legacy connect with building a better Nigeria?”

Keep your statement of purpose in a place you will see it every day.

Remind yourself constantly of what you intend to create with your life.

Align your thoughts, words and actions with this purpose and you are sure to be remembered as you wish.

Living on purpose with you,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.

www.patriciaomoqui.com

Setting goals

“Goals provide a sense of direction and purpose”
Setting goals is one thing we all do consciously or not consciously, to be on the conscious part this time. Goal Setting involves establishing specific, measurable and time-targeted objectives. Setting goals is a process that allows people to specify then work towards their own objectives - most commonly with financial or career-based goals, how ever most effective goals should be tangible, specific, realistic and have a time targeted for completion. There must be realistic plans to achieve the intended goal.

Take time to read this before you try and write down a whole lot of things..
SMART = GOALS not just goals but with a 100% result…

- S = Specific: A specific goal has a much greater chance of being accomplished than a general goal. To set a specific goal you must answer the six "W" questions:

*Who: Who is involved? *What: What do I want to accomplish? *Where: Identify a location. *When: Establish a time frame. *Which: Identify requirements and constraints. *Why: Specific reasons, purpose or benefits of accomplishing the goal.
EXAMPLE: A general goal would be, "I like to paint my room." But a specific goal would say, "I will paint my room pink."
- M = Measurable: Establish concrete criteria for measuring progress toward the attainment of each goal you set.
- A = Attainable: When you identify goals that are most important to you, you begin to figure out ways you can make them come true. You develop the attitudes, abilities, skills, and financial capacity to reach them. You begin seeing previously overlooked opportunities to bring yourself closer to the achievement of your goals.
You can attain most any goal you set when you plan your steps wisely and establish a time frame that allows you to carry out those steps. Goals that may have seemed far away and out of reach eventually move closer and become attainable, not because your goals shrink, but because you grow and expand to match them. When you list your goals you build your self-image. You see yourself as worthy of these goals, and develop the traits and personality that allow you to possess them.
- R= Realistic: a goal must represent an objective toward which you are both willing and able to work. A goal can be both high and realistic; you are the only one who can decide just how high your goal should be. But be sure that every goal represents substantial progress. A high goal is frequently easier to reach than a low one because a low goal exerts low motivational force. Some of the hardest jobs you ever accomplished actually seem easy simply because they were a labor of love.
- T= Time: With no time frame tied to a goal there's no sense of urgency. If you want to paint your room, when do you want to paint it? "Someday" won't work.
WARNING: if you haven’t done or set a realistic goal once before I will advice you to start with the ones that are of fun…
This is a little goal i work on just in one day…………….."i painted my room money free".

lesson 2

Create a PURPOSEFUL 2010

We enter a wonderful time for contemplation as 2009 winds down and we gear up for a fresh, New Year.

I ask you to do something simple this week.

Find a pen and paper.

Go to a place where you can sit in total silence.

Turn off all distractions (cell phones, radio, TV, internet).

Write down your answers to the following questions:

1. Who do I desire to BE in 2010? Choose 5 character traits you would like to embody more fully. Here are a few suggestions to get your mind moving: compassion, peace, understanding, courageous, passionate, loving, helpful, joyful…you get the idea.

2. How will I serve my community and country this year? Give consideration to your unique skills. Visualize yourself in your community in action. What change do you most desire to be part of? Write down everything that comes to your heart.

These two questions are plenty to get you started.

Be purposeful in planning the year ahead.

Don’t rush into 2010 simply chasing after money or trying to attain a big title. I am sure you can and will achieve that too. I beckon you to open to your HIGHER CALLING.

Infuse PURPOSE and SERVICE into your 2010 goals. If you do, you will find more satisfaction, peace and fulfillment than you have ever experienced. “The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.” (Mitch Albom.)

After completing this exercise post your answers in a place that you will see every morning when you wake up and every evening when you go to bed.

Keep your intentions in front of you consistently and you will be sure to accomplish what your heart truly desires.

Carry a copy of your desires in your pocket or purse. Read them regularly. Stay FOCUSED. Don’t lose sight of who you desire to be and how you desire to serve.

Defining my purpose with you,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
www.patriciaomoqui.com

lesson 1

The pine caterpillar is an intresting insect.

Place a series of pine caterpillars end-to-end in a circle until the circle is closed. Each one will follow the caterpillar in front of it around the circle indefinitely. place food at the centre of the circle, and the caterpillars will continue to follow one another without touching the food, until they all die of starvation.

The pine caterpillar lacks initiative and imagination. it lacks the ability to make independent decisions and break out of the circle, even when it is danger of starvation.

We were not created like pine caterpillars. you can create your own environment- break out of the limitation created by your environment. you can break out of the crowd to fulfill your dreams,desire,purpose and the good-will of life.

18 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW,DO BEFORE U’R 20 YEARS OF AGE.

These things written below are things i didn't get to do before i was 20, only until yesterday i found that an average person lacks one of this things even after the age of 30.

You desire a cool life, a wealthy life read this and tell a friend. you may be rich but not wealthy.

· Understand the VALUE and USE of money. Know it.

· Have an understanding of power sight: money, opposite sex, etc.

· Develop a working-talking relationship with a qualified mentor.

· Finish higher education or at least with one or two certifications.

· Have read at least 48 books on career and self-improvement at your core.

· Build a network of at least 5 millionaires adult-friend.

· Master a good savings habit of at least 10% of income.

· Master a routine daily exercise.

· Search and have a fellow grass of responsibility.

· Be computer literate.

· Learn and sustain a good time use of energy deployment culture.

· Have a realistic development-plan covering a 5 years plan of your life.

· Research and understand the power of personal value in your area of interest/influence.

· Learn and decide how you’ll be positively different in class, in thoughts, conducts and dressing.

· Learn the dignity of hard-work and a glory benefit of balanced life.

· Practise the noble of giving and sharing: benevolence.

· Know GOD and sustain the commitment to him.

· Speak a second language.

You can create what you want in life

"You can create what you want in life; first you have to imagine it clearly. Imagine your ideal scene," .


How do you use your imagination to create your ideal scene?


If you want to be inspired to create your best life, I'll share with you some of the ideas I've used.


1. Write out your top ten values. Write quickly and without editing. A value is what is important to you. For example, wealth, freedom, enjoying a great relationship, and creative self-expression are values. Your values are what you want to spend your time doing. If something is not important to you, it is not a value. It's not something you'll be interested in doing. A value is anything that excites you and makes you feel more alive.


2. Check if any of your values conflict. When values conflict, they nullify each other. For example, if you value freedom and also a good job, there is an apparent conflict. Sometimes you may have to conform too much in a job to be free. You reconcile this by finding out how you can enjoy financial security and freedom. When you can find how both values can work in harmony, you'll be able to integrate them.


3. Check if your values are something you're moving toward or whether you're trying to move away from something. For example, if wealth is a value, ask if you're choosing wealth because you're avoiding poverty. If you do, you'll be focusing on avoiding poverty. By thinking of poverty, you're staying in that loop because you get more of what you focus on. Instead find ways to make wealth attractive to you: imagine the relief of bills paid, the comfort of the new house, the thrill of the new sports car, and so on. This way you'll be pulled toward wealth and you won't focus on poverty at all.


4. Now rewrite your top ten values into goals. Write the goals in either the present or the past tense. If you write them in the future tense, you're subtly pushing them away. The future will always be one step ahead of you.


5. Finally, use these goals to describe your ideal scene. How do you want the goal to look as you approach the deadline for its realization.

6. Doing this exercise should give you a lift. As you write out your ideal scene, you should feel a thrill of anticipation. If your ideal scene does not excite you, then your goals are not compelling enough because they're based on values that you don't care about. In this case, you have to revisit your values and think about what it is that you really want for yourself.


7. Now your plan is to daily activate your subconscious mind to bring these goals into your experience. You'll do this by writing out your ideal scene the first thing in the morning every morning until it shows up in your life.


Imagine your life if you chose to design it!

Living with an Attitude of Gratitude

Creating an attitude of gratitude is one of the easiest steps we can take to improve our lives. The happiness that we create for ourselves by showing our appreciation has far-reaching effects, both for ourselves and for those we come into contact with. The potential for gratitude to spread beyond those people also increases significantly – it can be highly contagious. There are so many different ways that we can express an attitude of gratitude. Here are just a few:

Say “thank you”. This is the most basic and well-known way to show appreciation to others. Saying “thank you” is a great way to express your gratitude and can be done in several different forms. You can say it in person, over the phone, in a note, or in an email. Using this when it’s least expected can have significant results in lifting someone’s spirits. For example, a quick note to your child’s teacher thanking her for her hard work and patience might give her the boost of energy that she needs right when she needs it most. You may never know what effect this has had on her, but it will have an effect.

Stop complaining about your life. Even as tough as life can be sometimes, remember that there is always someone that has things worse than you do. Constant complaining about what is wrong in your life will keep you focused on that. The opposite is true as well – focusing on what is right in your life will keep you focused on that. Focusing on the negative will bring you down while focusing on the positive will lift you up.

Focus on what you have, not what you don’t have. This is very closely related to not complaining about your life. Being grateful for what you do have keeps you in a positive place, whereas focusing on what you don’t have keeps you in a negative place. Focusing on what you do have, regardless of how little or how much that may be, is a great expression of gratitude.

Model your attitude. Modeling your attitude of gratitude is a great way to spread it to others. We’ve all heard the Golden Rule to “treat others the way you want to be treated”. Showing your appreciation to others shows them that you like to be treated this way too. An attitude of gratitude can be quite infectious!

Be satisfied with simple things and be mindful of little things. Being grateful for the little things in our lives is just as important (if not, more so) than being grateful for the big things. Our lives are filled with little things every day that we can be grateful for. What about that front row parking spot you found when you were running late? Or the beautiful weather outside? How about the store clerk that went out of her way to help you? This may take a little practice, but there are many little things throughout the day that we can be grateful for if we take the time to notice them.

Give to someone else. This is the best way to spread your gratitude of attitude. There are so many different ways to give to someone else. You could volunteer your time to help those less fortunate or give you time to children by mentoring them. The possibilities are endless but could make a huge difference in someone’s life without you evening knowing it. If they in turn give to someone else, the cycle could continue without end.

Keep a gratitude journal. Let’s just be honest here: there are some days when it is hard to find anything to be grateful for. Keeping a gratitude journal can help with that. There are preprinted journals so you can just fill in the blanks or you can make your own. The important thing is to find at least 5 things each day to be grateful for, no matter how big or small those things are. A gratitude journal can serve two purposes: it will help you stop and remember what you are grateful for or it can serve as inspiration on days when you find it difficult to find anything to be grateful for by reading over past days.

Practice random acts of kindness. This can be one of the most fun and rewarding ways to live a life of gratitude, especially when it’s done anonymously. Surprise someone with something unexpected. You may never know what it meant to them but it will likely make their day. Try putting a note in your child’s lunch or bringing treats to the office to share. Even a small gesture can mean so much to someone.

Living a life of gratitude is one of the easiest ways to live a happier life. It takes very little effort to show someone you appreciate them but will mean so much to them. There are so many ways to make gratitude a part of our life and to spread that attitude to others. Make today the day you start living a life of gratitude and spread your light to the rest of the world!